我不爱浪漫 I am not romantic

情人节快乐！

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我对浪漫这个玩意儿没什么要求。我不喜欢情情爱爱的电影和小说。 对我来说，那些东西有些造作和肉麻，也不真实。 所以，Ed是个幸福的男人。不用花脑筋来取我欢心。

可是，昨天 (加拿大的13日)， 当其他国家的情人庆祝着情人节时，我没留意到，竟然写了篇‘新年展望’的贴字！啊 ！真是太糟糕，太不识情趣了！亲爱的朋友读者们，真不好意思。现在补上，祝你们情人节快乐。

我们今天怎么庆祝呢？嗯，什么都没。我们不要出去吃晚餐，因为人多，我不喜欢。那些什么烛光晚餐的，我不习惯。一碗越南牛肉河粉或一碟泰式青咖哩饭已令我很开心。Ed说，‘唉呀！忘了买鲜花给你！’ ‘不用啦！’ 这句话是真心的。所以，他就真的不买了。哈哈！

不过，我们当然有对彼此说 ‘情人节快乐’ 啦。其实，我天天都会对Ed说 ’I love you babe’ 。 嘻嘻。那不代表我是浪漫的人。我知道Ed很受不了这些肉麻的用语。他越讨厌，我越爱作弄他！ 他是个木头，不喜欢这套 – 什么爱我啦，一生一世啦。他不说，我不逼，或者，我放弃逼他。心里知道就好。干嘛逼自己喜欢的人做他不自在的事。

嗯….或许，明天才去餐馆吃晚餐吧。

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• Our Valentine’s Day
• Vespa Valentien
• 情人节三不买
• 情人节随想

Happy Valentine's Day !

photo by : blmurch

I am never a romantic person, and I rarely watch/read lovey-dovey movies or novels. Frankly, I find them a little awkward or quite fake. Well, do you really believe in real life men will do all those things the movies and novels tell you they will do? I don’t.  Hence, Ed is a lucky man because I don’t expect any of those things from him.

Anyway, because of I am obviously oblivious of the Valentine’s Day, I posted a New Year Resolution post yesterday (13th in Canada but 14th in most countries), instead of something romantic ! I guess this shows how unmindful I am to all the fuss by the commercials and media on this V-Day.  Nonetheless, to all my friends and readers, wish you all a Happy (belated) Valentine’s Day.

How are we going to celebrate today? Umm…nothing special. We don’t want to go out to eat because we don’t like the crowd. I don’t really care about the candle night dinner because I won’t be comfortable with it anyway. A good bowl of Vietnamese noodles soup or Thai Curry Chicken will make me equally happy !　Ed said, ‘ Oh no ! I forgot to buy you flowers !’ ‘ No worries, it is ok. I don’t care.’ So, he does not.

Yet, of course, we still say Happy V-Day to each other today. In fact, I tell him I love him everyday. Heehee…not because I am a romantic person. Ed is someone who hates this lovey-dovey fuss, and the more he hates it, the more I like to say it to annoy him ! On the other hand, knowing him well, I never force him to say those things to me, or maybe I just give up. What’s the point ? Since deep down I know how much he loves me.

Back to this V-Day, maybe we will go out to eat tomorrow. Shall see…

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鼠年(08)回顾 2008 Review

马来西亚家人朋友 (1月 和 6月)

Dear English readers, please scroll down for English translation.

阳历年时忙考试，没回顾我在08年做了什么。
现在，试考了，农历年过了，回头看看，鼠年可真多姿多彩。

这两年来日子都很漂泊，去年可说是‘四海为家’的顶峰：-
在马来西亚和澳洲各住了三个月，其余的六个月则在加拿大。

和Ed在马旅游 (2月)

1月 – 大马
回马做家里的大小姐。
在爸爸店里帮忙和学习。
天天去巴刹，到处吃吃吃。

2月 – 大马
Ed第一次来马，第一次见家长。
我俩背包游新加坡，吉隆坡，槟城，马六甲和浮罗交怡。
Ed回加国工作，我回澳洲工作。

澳洲的朋友 (3月 - 5月)

3月 – 澳洲
上班。和一位好朋友住。
放工回家就和朋友追港剧。
很高兴和很多朋友相聚。
喝我爱喝的意大利咖啡和比利时热巧克力，
吃我爱吃的eggs benedict早餐。

4月 – 澳洲
继续上班。
搬进一间有三房，却只有一张床和一张椅子的公寓。
没有网络。看了很多英文小说。

寂寞的公寓　(澳洲)

5月 – 澳洲
如4月。

6月 – 大马
回马。如1月。

多伦多 (7月 - 12月)

7 月 – 加国
回加国。见到Ed给他一个大拥抱 ：“亲爱的，好久没见”。
享受我在加国的第一夏天。

8月 – 加国
阳光继续普照。每个周末尽情欢享。
Ed告诉我，我煲的汤和煮的东西已可以见人。Yay !
我这大小姐开始认真做好家务。

多伦多 (7月 - 12月)

9月 – 加国
啊！结婚吧！

10月 – 加国
开始发闷。不如去学喝茶和学泡茶吧。

Hey 先生，来个胜利手势吧 ! (多伦多)

11月 – 加国
好冷。
决定参加考试，

12月 – 加国
好冷。
拼命苦读。
圣诞和新年快乐！

多伦多　(7月 - 12月)

1月 – 加国
试考了，年过了。
2009 牛年要做什么好呢 ? ……

With Family & friends in Malaysia (Jan & Jun)

I was very busy with exam during the New Year, did not get the chance to review my 2008 year. Exam is finally over and (Chinese) New Years came and gone, finally, I have the time to sit down, to reflect on my 2008 year. Looking back, it was indeed a great and interesting year.

For the past two years, I have been dividing my times between Malaysia, Australia and Canada, and last year was my most traveled and drifting year. I lived 3 months each in Malaysia and Australia, the rest of the six months in Canada.

Traveled with Ed in Malaysia (Feb)

Jan – Malaysia
Went back to Malaysia and be pampered like a princess at home by my lovely family.
Learned from my father and helped out in his shop.
Went to pasar often and fully enjoyed the famous delicious street food !

Feb – Malaysia
Ed visited Malaysia for the first time and met my parents for the first time.
We traveled in Singapore, KL, Penang, Malacca and Langkawi.
Ed headed back to Canada, while I went back to Australia.

With friends in Australia ((Mar - May)

Mar – Australia
Went back to work. Stayed with a good friend.
Hong Kong TV series was our favourite passtime together after work.
So happy to catch up with many good friends in Oz.
Drunk my favourite Italian coffee and Belgium hot chocolate;
ate my favourite eggs benedict breakfast.

Apr – Australia

Continued to work.
Moved into a huge 3 bedroom condominium, however,
you won’t believe I only lived with a folding bed and a chair in the condo.
No Internet. Read many novels.

Lonely apartment

May – Australia
Same as April.

Jun – Malaysia
Went back to Malaysia.
Same as January.

Toronto (July - Dec)

Jul – Canada
Went back to Canada.
Gave Ed a big hug, ‘Darling, long time no see! ‘
Enjoyed my first summer in Canada.

Aug – Canada
Went to nearly all summer street festivals and events.
Surprisingly, Ed started to praise my cooking ! Yay!
Finally, I had been better with housework.

Toronto (2) (July - Dec)

Sep – Canada
Let’s get married dear !

Oct – Canada
Started to feel bored and restless. So attended Tea Sommelier classes.

Hey dude, you gonna have fun in summer ! (Canada)

Nov – Canada
So cold !
Decided to sit for exam.

Dec – Canada
So cold !!
Studied unbelievably hard for the exam.
Happy Christmas and New Year !

Jan – Canada
Exam is over, new years came and gone.
What am I going to do in 2009 ? …..

Toronto (3) (July - Dec)

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亲爱的，你的戒指呢？

“新婚生活怎么样啊？”

婚后，很多人问。

“没什么不同啊。都是一样。”

我觉得这个答案是好现象。

很多人说，婚后，男的女的，都会‘原形毕露’。

还好，我和Ed都是‘坦率’的人。

所有缺点很早前已‘很自然’地表现出来了。

我的小姐脾气，他牛一样的固执。

算了，习惯就好。;)

人人说，结婚就代表互相尊重，彼此接受，缺点和优点，对吗？

这个，我深深相信。

其实，我们已达很高境界 – 爽脆和幽默。

高兴不高兴的，都拿出来讲。谈下谈下，很快就会多了解。

暂时解决不了的，幽彼此一默，笑了后，有些执着好像已不重要。

所以，生活上是没问题的。

除了吵些无聊的，天天都开开心心。

啊！对了，婚后，唯一不同和不习惯的，就是，我们都不爱戴我们的结婚戒指….

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Just the same

(Dear English reader, please scroll down to find the ‘click’ for English translation)

回来多伦多约一个星期了。 这阵子我都与时差的不适＇战斗＇着。多伦多与吉隆坡的时差为十二个小时。这里的中午十二点即吉隆坡的午夜十二点。 所以，我在中午会很疲倦，会睡上好几个小时。晚上呢，就会睡不着，或早上四，五点就爬起身来。这两天，好了些。

离开多伦多有四个月左右吧。除了季节的转变，其余的就如四个月前我离开的一样。就好像不曾离开过。

只是，心情有点不同了。上次来此，算是放自己一个长假，也是为了尝试多伦多的生活，见见Ed 的家人朋友。这次，这里变得熟悉了。而且，完成了在墨尔本的学业，也变卖或捐赠了在墨的一切。现在，没了这些牵挂。也许，算是新生活的真正开始吧。

可是，还在等着加拿大的永久居民证，暂是游客身份。再说，我还要再考药剂师的执照，才可以工作。加上，Ed的工作形式多为合约式。我们可能会再搬到别地也难说。听起来有点困难重重。哈！ 这证明爱情有多伟大，把我从老远吸引过来 ! （或也是盲目的 😉 ）

我暂也不想多想。暂顺其自然吧。想看看在打开生命的另一扇门时，另一边的风景如何。

现在， 我只想要好好享受多伦多夏天的阳光。这也是我要早点回来的原因。上个冬天把我冷得怕了。虽夏天已过了一半, 可我就喜欢现在的阳光, 不是熨人的热, 只是懒懒地温暖。 Ed也已迫不急待地为我编排了一系列的节目。:)

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This is how we date 我俩是这样谈恋爱的

和Ed在一起已有三年多了。

除了他在澳洲工作的十个月时间，我俩都是一个在北 （美加）, 一个在南 （澳洲）。

前一，两年，我俩通常是电话联络。

最近一年，我们开始用另一个方式‘谈恋爱’- Skype。

诚心感激先进的科技，让我俩的感情可以维系 😉

当然，没有彼此的信任，了解和要在一起的决心，再先进的科技也帮不到我们。

现在，我只希望我俩能像平常的情侣一般，可以一起吃饭看戏，不只是对着电脑说笑。

(photo taken by Ed in Canada, while I am in Malaysia)

Ed and I have been going out for more than three years. Apart from his ten months work in Australia, most of the times, we are thousands of miles apart – he is in USA or Canada, and I am in Australia.

For the first couple of years, we communicated through phone calls. In the recent a year or two, we started to ‘date’ through Skype 😉 Thanks to the modern technology that helps us two to keep our long distance relationship. Of course, without each other’s trust, understanding and determination to be together, no advanced technology can help in any way.

What I really wish now is most couples already have – just to be able to spend times together, rather than ‘talking’ to and ‘laughing’ with the ‘computer’ most of the times.

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He is a Better Cook !

昨晚，我决定炒上海炒面。这是第一次试煮。 很久以前看过烹饪书。

煮到一半， 那时一切还好。 正当要加上海面时，我看了看那上海面，似乎有些粉。

正犹疑 要不要先用水分开煮一煮， 才与其他材料一齐炒。

照常理， 我通常都会如此做。

可是， 昨晚不知是一时想偷懒，还是在发白日梦，没过水，就把上海面丢进去炒。

结果是当然是不堪设想 ！

还以为可以为Ｅｄ准备爱心午餐。

难怪他常取笑我－烹饪没他棒，清洗没他勤，家居修理当然不是他那家。

算了，让他都做完，我享受，也正合我心意。

他说，要我这个女友有何用。

我的女性朋友说我“拾到宝”。:D

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情人节三不买 – 我赞成！

听朋友说，在香港，有人在网上，鼓吹“三不买” – 在情人节，不买礼物，不买鲜花，不买晚餐。 问题主要来自商家在情人节当天故意把价格调得特高。害得男的钱包很惨。虽然，这根本不能衡量对一个人的感情。可是，有些女的，觉得当天的表现很重要。

唉！多得商家及传播界的努力。把爱情这样来”扭转”。希望大家别陷入这个圈套。

三不买 – 我赞成！！

希望别误会，我不是不站在女方。只是觉得这样花钱，有些浪费， 也“益”了商家。礼物，鲜花，晚餐，不一定要在情人节当天买。

突然，有个小小建议 – 不如，用那些钱一起去报名学些两人都有兴趣的东西。学的不一定要太认真，短程的就很好。如：画画，艺术或电影欣赏，跳舞，等等。一起学一些东西两三个月，可能更能增进感情。

可是，我也明白，男的有时会比较懒学东西，除了电脑或游戏。

总之，先“益”自己，别“益”商家！！

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Vespa Valentine !!

On the day I went to The Beach, I saw this Vespa shop. Vespa is quite a trend here.

I took a couple of photos. Ed said they looked pretty ok and this one looked like a couple.

So I think it is appropriate to use this photo to wish everyone a

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY !!!

那天去 The Beach 时，见到这间Vespa店。Vespa 在这蛮流行的。我拍了几张照片。Ed看了说还蛮好看的。他觉得上面这张像一对情侶。

所以，用了这张祝大家 情人节快乐 ！！

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Thoughts on Valentine’s day 情人节随想

Although I may not have much experiences in relationship, I realised some of my friends are happier and less affected by the unpredictable nature of love than others. Just some thoughts to share : –

In this Valentine’s Day,

• May I wish all those who have their second half, be even more appreciative to them. Wishing you a loving, meaningful, respectful, long lasting and happy relationship.

• For those who still have not had or found one, don’t worry, don’t compare. Be truly happy yourself, the right one will come to you.

• Wishing those whom you love still do not know yet, be courageous to share your feelings with them. If they like you too, you deserve it，all the best for the new chapter of life. If it is not the case, it is ok, probably is their losts too. Crying hard maybe one way to vent out your feelings. After that, wishing you step forward and start a new and happy life.

• For those who have broken up recently, please don’t stay home by yourself and feel pitiful. Please have a good meal with your family and friends. It is understandable to feel sad but don’t neglect your health and your soul. Love yourself, start afresh. Sometimes, times can really take away pain. There are still many people who really love you and care about you.

Last but not least, hope we would not forget to tell your family and friends how much you love them too.

This is for my family and friends, I miss everyone of you and I love you all !!

我没有丰富的感情经验。却发觉有些朋友在感情来去中比一些人快乐。

有些感想，希望分享。

在情人节这天，

• 深祝有了另一半的，好好珍惜对方。祝你有一个互敬互爱，快乐及持久的感情。 (注：不太喜欢用爱情两字，觉得感情两字比较会持久及实在）

• 还没有另一半的，别担心，别与人比较。经营好自己的快乐，哪怕没人追。

• 愿有暗恋人的，痛痛快快说了出来就好了。如果，人家也喜欢的话，那很值得开心。人家不要的话，没法强求，也是他的损失。可以大哭一场来发泄。哭过了就好好过活。

• 愿失恋的人，别一个人在情人节躲在家里偷偷地哭。与好友家人吃一餐好的。伤心难怪，别伤了身子。好好振作，好好爱自己。时间有时真的可以冲淡一切。你身边还有许多人爱你。

最后，希望大家也别忘了珍惜家人好友！！

这是给我亲爱的家人朋友， 我很想念你们，也很爱你们 ！！

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