我不爱浪漫 I am not romantic

情人节快乐！

photo by : Evoo73

我对浪漫这个玩意儿没什么要求。我不喜欢情情爱爱的电影和小说。 对我来说，那些东西有些造作和肉麻，也不真实。 所以，Ed是个幸福的男人。不用花脑筋来取我欢心。

可是，昨天 (加拿大的13日)， 当其他国家的情人庆祝着情人节时，我没留意到，竟然写了篇‘新年展望’的贴字！啊 ！真是太糟糕，太不识情趣了！亲爱的朋友读者们，真不好意思。现在补上，祝你们情人节快乐。

我们今天怎么庆祝呢？嗯，什么都没。我们不要出去吃晚餐，因为人多，我不喜欢。那些什么烛光晚餐的，我不习惯。一碗越南牛肉河粉或一碟泰式青咖哩饭已令我很开心。Ed说，‘唉呀！忘了买鲜花给你！’ ‘不用啦！’ 这句话是真心的。所以，他就真的不买了。哈哈！

不过，我们当然有对彼此说 ‘情人节快乐’ 啦。其实，我天天都会对Ed说 ’I love you babe’ 。 嘻嘻。那不代表我是浪漫的人。我知道Ed很受不了这些肉麻的用语。他越讨厌，我越爱作弄他！ 他是个木头，不喜欢这套 – 什么爱我啦，一生一世啦。他不说，我不逼，或者，我放弃逼他。心里知道就好。干嘛逼自己喜欢的人做他不自在的事。

嗯….或许，明天才去餐馆吃晚餐吧。

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Happy Valentine's Day !

photo by : blmurch

I am never a romantic person, and I rarely watch/read lovey-dovey movies or novels. Frankly, I find them a little awkward or quite fake. Well, do you really believe in real life men will do all those things the movies and novels tell you they will do? I don’t.  Hence, Ed is a lucky man because I don’t expect any of those things from him.

Anyway, because of I am obviously oblivious of the Valentine’s Day, I posted a New Year Resolution post yesterday (13th in Canada but 14th in most countries), instead of something romantic ! I guess this shows how unmindful I am to all the fuss by the commercials and media on this V-Day.  Nonetheless, to all my friends and readers, wish you all a Happy (belated) Valentine’s Day.

How are we going to celebrate today? Umm…nothing special. We don’t want to go out to eat because we don’t like the crowd. I don’t really care about the candle night dinner because I won’t be comfortable with it anyway. A good bowl of Vietnamese noodles soup or Thai Curry Chicken will make me equally happy !　Ed said, ‘ Oh no ! I forgot to buy you flowers !’ ‘ No worries, it is ok. I don’t care.’ So, he does not.

Yet, of course, we still say Happy V-Day to each other today. In fact, I tell him I love him everyday. Heehee…not because I am a romantic person. Ed is someone who hates this lovey-dovey fuss, and the more he hates it, the more I like to say it to annoy him ! On the other hand, knowing him well, I never force him to say those things to me, or maybe I just give up. What’s the point ? Since deep down I know how much he loves me.

Back to this V-Day, maybe we will go out to eat tomorrow. Shall see…

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This is how we date 我俩是这样谈恋爱的

和Ed在一起已有三年多了。

除了他在澳洲工作的十个月时间，我俩都是一个在北 （美加）, 一个在南 （澳洲）。

前一，两年，我俩通常是电话联络。

最近一年，我们开始用另一个方式‘谈恋爱’- Skype。

诚心感激先进的科技，让我俩的感情可以维系 😉

当然，没有彼此的信任，了解和要在一起的决心，再先进的科技也帮不到我们。

现在，我只希望我俩能像平常的情侣一般，可以一起吃饭看戏，不只是对着电脑说笑。

(photo taken by Ed in Canada, while I am in Malaysia)

Ed and I have been going out for more than three years. Apart from his ten months work in Australia, most of the times, we are thousands of miles apart – he is in USA or Canada, and I am in Australia.

For the first couple of years, we communicated through phone calls. In the recent a year or two, we started to ‘date’ through Skype 😉 Thanks to the modern technology that helps us two to keep our long distance relationship. Of course, without each other’s trust, understanding and determination to be together, no advanced technology can help in any way.

What I really wish now is most couples already have – just to be able to spend times together, rather than ‘talking’ to and ‘laughing’ with the ‘computer’ most of the times.

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情人节三不买 – 我赞成！

听朋友说，在香港，有人在网上，鼓吹“三不买” – 在情人节，不买礼物，不买鲜花，不买晚餐。 问题主要来自商家在情人节当天故意把价格调得特高。害得男的钱包很惨。虽然，这根本不能衡量对一个人的感情。可是，有些女的，觉得当天的表现很重要。

唉！多得商家及传播界的努力。把爱情这样来”扭转”。希望大家别陷入这个圈套。

三不买 – 我赞成！！

希望别误会，我不是不站在女方。只是觉得这样花钱，有些浪费， 也“益”了商家。礼物，鲜花，晚餐，不一定要在情人节当天买。

突然，有个小小建议 – 不如，用那些钱一起去报名学些两人都有兴趣的东西。学的不一定要太认真，短程的就很好。如：画画，艺术或电影欣赏，跳舞，等等。一起学一些东西两三个月，可能更能增进感情。

可是，我也明白，男的有时会比较懒学东西，除了电脑或游戏。

总之，先“益”自己，别“益”商家！！

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Vespa Valentine !!

On the day I went to The Beach, I saw this Vespa shop. Vespa is quite a trend here.

I took a couple of photos. Ed said they looked pretty ok and this one looked like a couple.

So I think it is appropriate to use this photo to wish everyone a

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY !!!

那天去 The Beach 时，见到这间Vespa店。Vespa 在这蛮流行的。我拍了几张照片。Ed看了说还蛮好看的。他觉得上面这张像一对情侶。

所以，用了这张祝大家 情人节快乐 ！！

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Thoughts on Valentine’s day 情人节随想

Although I may not have much experiences in relationship, I realised some of my friends are happier and less affected by the unpredictable nature of love than others. Just some thoughts to share : –

In this Valentine’s Day,

• May I wish all those who have their second half, be even more appreciative to them. Wishing you a loving, meaningful, respectful, long lasting and happy relationship.

• For those who still have not had or found one, don’t worry, don’t compare. Be truly happy yourself, the right one will come to you.

• Wishing those whom you love still do not know yet, be courageous to share your feelings with them. If they like you too, you deserve it，all the best for the new chapter of life. If it is not the case, it is ok, probably is their losts too. Crying hard maybe one way to vent out your feelings. After that, wishing you step forward and start a new and happy life.

• For those who have broken up recently, please don’t stay home by yourself and feel pitiful. Please have a good meal with your family and friends. It is understandable to feel sad but don’t neglect your health and your soul. Love yourself, start afresh. Sometimes, times can really take away pain. There are still many people who really love you and care about you.

Last but not least, hope we would not forget to tell your family and friends how much you love them too.

This is for my family and friends, I miss everyone of you and I love you all !!

我没有丰富的感情经验。却发觉有些朋友在感情来去中比一些人快乐。

有些感想，希望分享。

在情人节这天，

• 深祝有了另一半的，好好珍惜对方。祝你有一个互敬互爱，快乐及持久的感情。 (注：不太喜欢用爱情两字，觉得感情两字比较会持久及实在）

• 还没有另一半的，别担心，别与人比较。经营好自己的快乐，哪怕没人追。

• 愿有暗恋人的，痛痛快快说了出来就好了。如果，人家也喜欢的话，那很值得开心。人家不要的话，没法强求，也是他的损失。可以大哭一场来发泄。哭过了就好好过活。

• 愿失恋的人，别一个人在情人节躲在家里偷偷地哭。与好友家人吃一餐好的。伤心难怪，别伤了身子。好好振作，好好爱自己。时间有时真的可以冲淡一切。你身边还有许多人爱你。

最后，希望大家也别忘了珍惜家人好友！！

这是给我亲爱的家人朋友， 我很想念你们，也很爱你们 ！！

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