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导演 Director
Cristian Mungiu

电影来源 Film Origin
Romania (2007)

剧本 Screenplay
Cristian Mungiu

主要演员 Principal Cast
Anamaria Marinca, Vlad Ivanov,
Laura Vasiliu, Alexandru Potocean

故事简介 Synopsis

在1987年的罗马尼亚, Otilia 正协助她的好友兼大学室友,Gabita 寻找堕胎的途径。堕胎在当时,即共产党仍当权的时代(1966至1989年), 是违法的。Mr Bebe 被找来进行此非法堕胎手术。可是,他要的酬劳不是金钱。在这进退两难的情况下,片中女主角必须作出一个决定。

During the last waning days of Communist rule in Romania in 1987, Otilia is trying to help her university dorm-mate and best friend, Gabita to get an abortion which is a illegal at that time (from 1966 until 1989). Mr Bebe is sought to perform the illicit termination in a seedy Romanian hotel. However, instead of monetary return, Bebe has something else in his mind. The two women are forced to make a decision in this rough and gritty situation.

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[Picture above (from Toronto Star) : A vat of liquid nitrogen holds embryos donated to LifeQuest Reproductive Centre (Toronto) Medicine for research. Similar containers will soon hold the eggs of young women who want to preserve their fertility.]

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前阵子,在Toronto Star报章读到一篇题为《Babies of the Ice Age》的文章。主要内容是 – 现在的最新科技可以为女性“储存”她们的卵子,以延长生育期。卵子可以在还年轻时从体内“抽出”,放进上图装有氮的容器内。氮可以有效地将卵子保持于健康状态。等到女性想要生育时,才拿出来受孕。就如将食物放进冰箱以保持新鲜。

文中提到,加拿大许多现代女性用她们最茂盛的生育时期(20至30岁)来追求教育和事业。可是, 她们的卵巢却随时间渐渐地退化。国家内15至49的女性平均只生育1.5个孩子,不能为国家维持所需要的人口(2.1个)。以前,这种科技用来帮助有疾病不能生育的女性。现在,可能可以开放给其他想要迟些生育的女性。希望这种新科技可以为职业女性和国家带来新希望。

另一篇文章题为《My Life first, babies second》的作者说,她自小被鼓励要努力读书,赚钱, 才有出人头地的一天。她不想靠男人。加上,现在生活水平高,要养育很贵。所以-my life first, babie second.

身为女性, 读了这些文章总令我感慨万千。不知我到底该如何….思考这个问题…

社会进化,女性抬头,教育, 事业,金钱….都要。 因为现代女性认为,如果没有完成自己的梦想,即有孩子,也未必快乐。等到什么都拥有了,想要有孩子时,已错过了生育的机会。很多女性因此耿耿于怀或到时才来后悔。在澳洲和加拿大,很多人为此求医,如人工受孕(IVF)。

记得读过另一篇题为《Buying Babies, bits by bits》的文章。文中提到,现在约有三百万的人是在实验室“做成”的,即IVF。 在做 IVF的过程中,如夫妇不孕,可以“买”其他人的卵子或精子。有些较有钱的还可以选择某种特征的精子或卵子。 如妻子身体不适怀孕,还可以“请”其他女性担起十月怀胎的责任。

从另一方面看,有许多女性想要有孩子,却寻寻觅觅也遇不到心上人。因此,在西方国家流行单亲母亲。 可是, 如没有好的经济能力,一个人怎能支撑得住。所以,也被逼先努力赚钱。或有些丈夫(暂)不要孩子,女性想要有孩子也难。等到时机对时,却已太迟了。

现在,科技发达了,卵子可以“保存”下来,以延长生育时期。我想有些女性看到这则新闻,可能会有些安慰。虽然,成功率只有25巴仙,至少有选择的机会。我认为中医也可为此贡献一份棉力。我就见过许多成功例子。

说了那么多,我想没什么对或错的。只是,有时在想,是我们这一代人太自私吗?还是被大环境所逼? 不知,我们生出来的下一代会如何想呢?不知有没有专家研究过 -这样来“储存”精子或卵子会对下一代有何间接的负面影响?

还有,很不公平的是, 男性的生育期比女性长很多。没有这种顾虙,可以专心事业。有钱了,虽较老了,还可以娶个年轻的妻子来生孩子。我不是女权主义者,可是想到这里,最后还是女性要做出较痛苦的抉择,或较大的牺牲。

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Although I may not have much experiences in relationship, I realised some of my friends are happier and less affected by the unpredictable nature of love than others. Just some thoughts to share : –

In this Valentine’s Day,

  • May I wish all those who have their second half, be even more appreciative to them. Wishing you a loving, meaningful, respectful, long lasting and happy relationship.
  • For those who still have not had or found one, don’t worry, don’t compare. Be truly happy yourself, the right one will come to you.
  • Wishing those whom you love still do not know yet, be courageous to share your feelings with them. If they like you too, you deserve it,all the best for the new chapter of life. If it is not the case, it is ok, probably is their losts too. Crying hard maybe one way to vent out your feelings. After that, wishing you step forward and start a new and happy life.
  • For those who have broken up recently, please don’t stay home by yourself and feel pitiful. Please have a good meal with your family and friends. It is understandable to feel sad but don’t neglect your health and your soul. Love yourself, start afresh. Sometimes, times can really take away pain. There are still many people who really love you and care about you.

Last but not least, hope we would not forget to tell your family and friends how much you love them too.

This is for my family and friends, I miss everyone of you and I love you all !!

我没有丰富的感情经验。却发觉有些朋友在感情来去中比一些人快乐。

有些感想,希望分享。

在情人节这天,

  • 深祝有了另一半的,好好珍惜对方。祝你有一个互敬互爱,快乐及持久的感情。 (注:不太喜欢用爱情两字,觉得感情两字比较会持久及实在)
  • 还没有另一半的,别担心,别与人比较。经营好自己的快乐,哪怕没人追。
  • 愿有暗恋人的,痛痛快快说了出来就好了。如果,人家也喜欢的话,那很值得开心。人家不要的话,没法强求,也是他的损失。可以大哭一场来发泄。哭过了就好好过活。
  • 愿失恋的人,别一个人在情人节躲在家里偷偷地哭。与好友家人吃一餐好的。伤心难怪,别伤了身子。好好振作,好好爱自己。时间有时真的可以冲淡一切。你身边还有许多人爱你。

最后,希望大家也别忘了珍惜家人好友!!

这是给我亲爱的家人朋友, 我很想念你们,也很爱你们 !!

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